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Nothing like fresh coconut juice!

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Slow Drivers, Get Out of Our Way

I cannot stand slow drivers who don’t move over to the right lanes. Thankfully, in L.A. we have lots of lanes so it’s not always so bad; however, when you have people behind you and they, one-by-one, start passing you on the right, isn’t that a hint?

Lately, I’ve been flooring it past these left-lane abusers and quickly (and safely!) cut in front of them. I’m sure it makes no difference, but it makes me feel better. I’m seriously considering getting some ‘Road Rage‘ signs, like ‘GET OUT OF THE FAST LANE, MORON!’ but I’m also fearful for my safety. That would inevitably lead to some sort of profiling, as I wouldn’t want to bully a senior citizen or a gangsta.

Anyway, LZ Granderson has a great commentary of which this is a part of:

I would much rather have someone pull up beside me, roll down their window and flip me the bird as they go driving by than be trapped behind this vehicular anarchist.

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When is it okay to start worrying?

From Seth Godin’s blog:

A friend was waiting to hear about the results of a job interview. He hadn’t heard in a while and he asked me, “how long before I should start worrying?”

Of course, the answer is, “you should never start worrying.”

Worrying is not a useful output. Worrying doesn’t change outcomes. Worrying ruins your day. Worrying distracts you from the work at hand. You may have fooled yourself into thinking that it’s useful or unavoidable, but it’s not. Now you’ve got one more thing to worry about.

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The Road More or Less Traveled

I’ll be the first to say it, I love road trips. They’re like a national pastime to me. I’m not talking day-trips around Southern California (although, those are great, too), but real road trips. The kind of road trips that require driving shifts; so many stops at 7-Eleven’s that the food groups consist of Combos (grains), beef jerky (protein), milk chocolate (dairy, duh), well, you get the idea. The kind of road trips that cross time zones (the more the better!), road trips that require an oil change by the time you get home.

Vacations to many people are sipping cocktails on the beach in Cabo with not a care in the world. They just want to veg out and be lazy and not have an agenda. That’s great and all, but that’s not a vacation to me. The kind of vacations I grew up on, and the kind I prefer now, are more exhausting than everyday life. I want to try and pack in as much as possible, take in all the sights, get up early, go to bed late. Sleeping in and being lazy are what weekends are for; I can do that at home!

I think what I like most about road trips is that I feel like I’ve actually traveled. It takes effort and patience to travel via roads. You can’t zonk out for 20 hours and wake up on the other side of the world. It’s a journey, just like in the pre-commercial airline days of ships and trains. I love to see the landscape change, even the climate. It’s a concept that non-road-trippers can’t grasp, especially in the “need-it-now” era.

Thankfully, my girlfriend is a fellow road-warrior. Six hours there and back in a day isn’t out of the ordinary for her. We must be made for one another…

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Keep Your Weaknesses Weak

As a small business owner, I’m charged with the responsibility of wearing many difference hats. I’m the co-owner, sales and marketing director, gofer, custodial engineer, tech support, human resources, receptionist and many other things. Oh, and I actually have to do some accounting from time to time.

There are some tasks that I am just not at all good at and others areas where I excel. My partner and I complement each other well, in that he is mostly left-brained and is perfect for the accounting side of accounting (yes, that makes sense), whereas I’m left-brained, but also have a lot of right-brain tendencies. Since I am good at formulating words and coming up with ideas, I do the majority of our marketing material and sales calls, as well as the technical writing. My partner is much better at coming up with solutions to accounting issues without getting stuck in the details.  He is quicker to think of things that may take me hours, or at least plenty of trial and error. In short, he is programmed for dealing with numbers in a way I can’t seem to grasp.

The reason I’m even talking about this is simple: our culture teaches us to improve our weaknesses while assuming our strengths will remain strong. My question is, If we’re so often focusing on weakness, is it reasonable to think our strengths will lose some of their punch?

I recently came across an article written by leadership expert and speaker, John Maxwell. He writes about how average people usually do not become extremely successful. People do not pay for average. An average business, career, or life makes no difference to anyone, really. I agree, for the most part, but what really stood out to me is the point of why I’m even writing about this: your strengths are strong for a reason, so stop wasting your time on trying to eradicate your weaknesses. Maxwell puts it this way:

I’d like to tell you something that goes against all of the rules you have ever been taught or have ever believed about weaknesses:  From this moment on, stop working on your weaknesses. Why? Well, it’s very simple. It’s because we are weak in our weaknesses, so stop doing these things that you’re not any good at.

Our education system taught us to work on our weakness. If you got an A in math but a C in English, what did they tell you to work on? That’s right, English. They say, “Get that English grade up.”

I’m here to tell you, don’t work on your English. You ask, “Why shouldn’t I work on my English?” It’s very simple. You have a math mind. It’s not that you’re dumb; it’s just that your math mind is better than your English mind. You’re better at numbers than you are at words. It’s not right or wrong; it’s just who you are. It’s your uniqueness.

It’s something to think about. Try and look for ways in which you can delegate things you consider chores or a waste of time. In terms of leadership, a CEO of a company doesn’t do the majority of things that make a company run. No, the CEO makes sure that people are in place who are the best at what they do, and are doing it.

Companies who have lost focus are those who focus too much on trying to improve their weaknesses, while their competitors exploit that weakness by becoming even stronger in their strengths. This even applies to those of you who aren’t in leadership roles or even work in the business world. We all have a company to run, and it’s called You, Inc. (I stole that from somewhere.)

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This Says It All

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Borders isn’t even ordering supplies anymore! I guess customer service is moot.

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A Writer Writes

I’ve always said I wanted to be a writer. Well, not always, but it’s been in the back of my mind for a good part of the last decade. The only writing I’ve done – besides for school – has been journaling/blogging. Because blogging has become so watered down from the early days (and everyone seems to have one), and publishing a book is easier than ever, ironically, being a traditionally published author is harder than ever.

Maybe it’s due to my introverted nature, but I’ve always fancied myself an obervationalist. Most of my writing has been about my life, things that bug me, politics, ramblings about nothing, you name it–and always conversational. I guess I play to my strengths, but at the same time, when I think about making writing a career choice, the more I feel like I need to hone my craft if I want to be successful at it. Of course, that makes sense; any skill or job you want to improve must be invested in.

I remember an author once saying that if you want to be a writer, read as many books, in the genre you want to write in, as possible. That makes sense to me. If I want to be a leader, I should learn from leaders; if I want to be a millionaire, I should spend time with millionaires (Where does one find millionaires, by the way, and how does one convince millionaires to spend time with them?); and, rather crudely, if you want to be healthy, don’t spend the majority of your time with obese folks.

I also seem to recall Stephen King once saying that once you finish your first novel, throw it away. It’s trash. But you need to complete the task to be able to improve and be a better storyteller. That may come as a shock to many; “I’ve spent months writing this book and I’m just supposed to throw it away?” Valid argument, especially since young King threw his manuscript for “Carrie” away, until his wife found it and encouraged him to shop it around. Maybe his advice isn’t as good as I thought it was.

I was browsing the shelves at Barnes & Noble a couple of weeks ago when I came across a title called, “God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons for Life’s Little Detours,” by Regina Brett. I’m not sure why I felt stirred to pull it off the shelf, but, as I started to flip through it, the first chapter I stopped on was called, “A Writer Is Someone Who Writes. If You Want to Be a Writer, Write.”

Well, duh? Well, duh. I don’t know if you want to call this random chance or fate, but I think I landed on this book and this chapter for a reason. I needed someone to tell me what it seemed should have been obvious: If I want to be a writer, I need to start writing.

Whether I decide to write a novel, short stories, essays, non-fiction, humor, or many other scores of genres, matters not. That will come to me in time, I just need to put pen to paper, because that’s what a writer does. He writes.

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-07-24

  • this southern california weather never ever gets old… #
  • world, meet oyster. #
  • Is reason always reasonable? #philosophical #
  • "I'm listening to NPR, wanna come over and make out?" #npr #pickuplines #hipster #
  • One of the oldest human needs is having someone to wonder where you are when you don't come home at night. — Margaret Mead #

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-07-17

  • Think about this: almost everyone has more than the average number of feet. As in, to have two feet is therefore to have more than average. #
  • ok, I'm making the switch to Google+ and canceling my twitter account. See you guys later, when you get with the times! #earlyadopter #
  • It's 5:38. Time to rock out with my Bach out. #
  • when someone says "no news is good news" I never know how they want me to interpret it. #cliches #
  • noone can spell anymore. loosers. #

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Carmageddon!

The infamous 405 is going to be closed for a 10-mile section over the weekend so construction crews can demolish part of the Mulholland Bridge. There’s been adequate warnings for weeks with CalTrans even posting the info on their digital signage as far north as San Jose. Caution: hundreds of miles ahead, the 405 will be closed.

Officials are hoping for the best, but fearing the worst. I think it will most definitely be the worst. Too many idiots either will forget or not heed the warnings. There’s going to be logjams of epic proportions on the nearby surface streets that parallel the freeway. Might we see a traffic jam that rivals that one that was in India (I think?) last year, that lasted more than 24-hours? This is going to be awesome!!

“Carmageddon,” is what they’re calling it…

To keep traffic moving around the 10-mile closure area, officials say that 70% of the weekend traffic that would normally pass through that section of the 405 must be eliminated or diverted to public transit and other freeways. This has been the talk of the town the last week or two. I’m predicting a disaster with traffic logjams of epic proportions on surface streets (L.A. Times).

Here is an awesome PSA from our favorite California Highway Patrolman, Pauncherello:

 

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Have I Had the Best Day of My Life?

Have I had the best day of my life? Maybe the question should be, “Have I had the best day of my life, so far?” I’m not sure how to answer that. Part of me wants to hope there’s some amazing experience I’ve yet to reach: getting married, having children, paying off Sallie Mae, seeing Earth from space…? These would be some of the most common answers if I were a contestant on the Family Fued. “Survey says……!?”

Is it possible that some of these monumental, life-changing events have been over-hyped? I’m fully expecting to join the club in saying, “besides the day I married my wife, having kid number x was the best day of my life!” I think I’ve learned something in my 29 years of observing couples (and you observe them a lot when you’re not part of one): when comparing lifetime highlights, always precede with, “besides the day I married my wife…” or something similar. You can’t go wrong with that one.

Will I just be saying these events were the best days of my life, because that’s what people say? People that win the lottery or various other contests involving big payouts and/or fame often say it’s the best day of their lives. Why? What makes that something the best day compared to all of the other days? Some people who have cheated death, in a sense, may be thinking every day they’re still living is the best day of their life. Maybe it’s just a matter of perspective.

Here are some of my random career highlights:

  • Selected to the Babe Ruth All-Star team as the starting catcher (I was 14 maybe?)
  • Making it to the regional Spelling Bee in elementary school (but not the getting sent home part)
  • Meeting Twins Hall of Famer 1st Baseman, Kent Hrbek
  • Every game of the 1991 World Series (on TV, but the memory is there)
  • Graduating from elementary/middle/junior higher/senior high school and college (of course)
  • The one and only performance my band partook in, for a high school talent competition (we didn’t win)
  • Within spitting distance of heartthrob George Clooney while he was shootin’ hoops between filming Ocean’s Thirteen scenes
  • Shaking Jay Leno’s hand
  • Getting my CPA license
  • Taking the controls of a Cessna something or other in Tulsa, Okla.
  • Seeing Dick Van Dyke ever so briefly while waiting for a taping at CBS
  • Every time I’m a new uncle
  • Getting a high-five from Snoop Dogg and, indubitably the best,
  • Being on TEEEVEEE!
Photo courtesy of Tim Ostendorf & Lopez Tonight

There’s obviously more (I hope), but that’s just what I could think of for now. Sure, many involve famous people, but I had to beef up my list with superficial things. Maybe this is when the “bucket list” comes into play. Of course, one’s bucket list is largely made up of things that can be controlled. For instance, I want to skydive. That’s doable. Publishing a novel, a lot more feasible than even 10 years ago. Become someone famous for something awesome and/or being awesome? Not as likely. One cannot will their awesomeness upon the national collective. ((Barack Obama in 2008, notwithstanding) Is that the proper use of ‘notwithstanding’?)

Digression: Why do so many of us peasants dream of being famous? Whether it be as an athlete, writer, thespian, model, politician, a Bono-style humanitarian, what’s the draw? Mass validation that you’re awesome? Ironically, many famous people don’t like the spotlight and just want to be left alone. They want what we have: a “normal” life.

I think I’ll sum it up like this: no matter how many of life’s highlights we’ve had thus far, what keeps us going every day is the hope that the best days of our lives are yet to come. If that’s already happened and it’s all downhill from here, what’s the point of living? Not to be that Pollyanna girl, but I choose to think my best days are still ahead of me. When those days come, you can bet your bonnet that I’ll start by saying, “besides the day I married my wife…”

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-07-10

  • it might be time to take my writing more srsly. found a handful of really great 'how to write' books @B&N. Now, where did I put my quill? #
  • I thought it was funny.. Have u thought about using LinkExchange 4 ur blog? @brandonacox Sorry. 1990's web jokes don't really work anymore. #
  • a textbook without an index? ayyyyyyy… #
  • #CAPPS webinar fail. no audio! I don't think I am screwing this up? There's no audio controls. my volume is up. hmm ok. #bugger #
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  • san dimas high school football rules! #moviequotes #
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The California Dream is Fizzling Out…?

That was the headline of a recent CNN.com article I’ve been sitting on for days… thinking about how I wanted to respond to it.

Do people still move to California to follow their dreams? It seems as though that era started with the Gold Rush and ended somewhere in the middle of the 20th century. What is the California Dream anyways? Moving out West to escape your past and experience a fresh start with new and exciting opportunities, perhaps?

To get an idea of the “fizzling” out of the California Dream we’re talking about here, the last 10 years have seen the biggest slump in population growth since 1850 – yes, you read that right. The largest slump in 161 years.

The Gold Rush, land ownership, Hollywood, jobs, the tech boom, weather, the ocean… At one time or another, all of these things were valid reasons for schlepping west. It seems, however, these reasons have by and large disappeared.

Obviously, there is no more gold to be found. Land is so scarce that if, “growth continued at the pace it did from 1960 to 2000, there would be one person per square foot in the state within 300 years. People would have to ‘stand on each others shoulders’ in order to fit,” according to Hans Johnson, a demographer at the Public Policy Institute of California. Johnson is being a little hyperbolic, as he’s comparing a 40 year growth spurt to a period almost 8 times that.

Although California’s economy is still the 8th largest in the world in terms of GDP, the unemployment rate as of June 17, 2011, is 11.7%, or 2.6% higher than the U.S. unemployment rate. Not to mention, businesses are leaving the state in droves: 193 businesses left California in 2010, nearly 4X the 2009 number of 51. This has mostly to do with the state’s corporate tax rate amongst the highest in the nation. With California’s continued budget deficits, it’s not likey to decrease any time soon.

The dot com bubble no doubt caused an influx of jobs and  money into the California economy. Since the bubble burst and the survivors have emerged from the ashes in the last decade, the tech industry is largely stable and isn’t contributing nearly as much growth to the state’s economy.

So what’s left to move to California for? Not gold, not land, not jobs. Hollywood? Do people still move to Hollywood to pursue their dreams? You hear hundreds of stories about thespians following their Hollywood dreams, but that was primarily concentrated during the “Golden Age” of Hollywood; the studio system responsible for the production and distribution of film from the 1920s to the 1950s. However, the fact that the joke about asking your waiter or waitress why they came to California (“I’m an actor”) is still relevant, maybe they do.

One of the few things Southern California still has going for it these days is, according to John D. Sutter of CNN.com, “the natural setting: always sunny; always 70-something degrees outside; mountains in one direction; ocean in the other. Palm trees peer out from the hills like long-necked, shaggy-haired giraffes. Soil in the valleys supports all kind of exotic and lucrative plants, from avocados to lima beans.” So, besides the smog, the weather may be the sole legitimate reason for still pursuing that “California Dream.” Is that even a dream?

Why did I move to California? Besides the weather, it wasn’t for any of the reasons mentioned above. However, despite the “fizzle” of the California Dream suggested by the CNN.com article that inspired this post, I still had an idea of what that “dream” meant for me. Independence, endless opportunities, an unrivaled melting pot of cultures, being a tourist whenever I want to be… I decided I wanted to live in California, so I got a job upon graduating college and just moved.

In my mind, I suppose I do idealize a lot of what I perceive draws me to California. But it’s okay. I’m surviving. I’m thriving. The cost of living, the endless traffic, the overcrowding, it all comes with the territory; it might be why the state’s population growth has slowed, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-06-26

  • I can't remember if I had dinner tonight…. #forgetful #old #being29sucks #
  • 117/77 – finally! #ftw #nodrugs #bloodpressure #
  • towing a boat across the country, windows down, heater on full blast, toddler w/ the runs, sitting in a puddle of poo? #worstsummervacation #
  • In the 1820s, more than 5 gallons of spirits a year were consumed by every man, woman, and child in America. Today? Less than one gallon. #
  • Am I the only dude who doesn't find Megan Fox attractive? #Overrated Way. #
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  • summer was better when I was 0-15yrs old. i.e., before jobs. #nostalgic #summer #
  • haha that's amazing!! @lemonadestorm You know you're tired when you bring your coffee with you to shower in the am #
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